The Cost of Being an Independent Escort
Updated: Jun 6
Booking a provider is certainly a luxury experience, and whilst prices vary widely, it is rarely ‘cheap’. Some may assume that the price per hour rate is hugely inflated, and may question whether the companion is ‘worth’ it. There are many factors to take into consideration, in regards to how much time and money is invested outside of bookings.
Time spent on marketing – creating and updating a website, paid ads, social media presence and growth, photo shoots (paying a professional photographer, paying for a location, buying clothing and lingerie, and potentially paying a hair/make-up artist) and general content creation to keep your presence varied and interesting
Admin - responding to calls and e-mails for booking requests, dealing with frustrating time wasters in the process, and screening clients/seeking references
Researching general industry information - hours spent poring through forums and reddit threads, reading blogs and looking up various websites, to ensure you’re as clued up as possible in an industry that has little to no regulation or guidance
Maintaining a bag of tricks - buying and looking for special lingerie and clothing items, as well as toys, lube, massage oils and other accessories
Hours of beauty treatments - from mani/pedis, hair, wax/laser/frequent shaving, skincare, make up, dental, the list goes on. Providers are likely to spend a lot more time and money on this than the average person, due to the expectation of providing an elite, luxury experience for every client
Investment in health - including regular STD screenings and buying copious amounts of good quality condoms, and diet and fitness. Paid sick leave doesn’t exist when you’re working for yourself* so there is a heightened importance of self care. Nobody will like it if you go to the office with a cold, but you still have the option, which does not apply in this field. *Nor does paid vacation time, for that matter
Booking and paying for incall locations - trying to find the most discreet yet conveniently located options, which takes research and comes with an obvious financial investment
The general energy spent maintaining two different personas - more often than not, this entails needing to create a convincing narrative for curious friends and family who do not know about your work, sometimes alongside a full-time day job/high level studies, and trying to travel to bookings unseen by an acquaintance. This is doubled by creating a narrative for your escort persona, so as not to give away too much of your genuine personal information to clients for the sake of safety
Possible unpaid leave from day job - this could be to accommodate an appointment, or to simply recover from an experience
Irregularity – income is unreliable. You can have a great and busy week, followed by two weeks of no bookings, yet still spend time doing everything you can to promote yourself and respond to disingenuous emails. When you look at someone’s hourly rates, don’t assume they’re in bookings for 40 hours a week
Emotional energy - of being a switched on, attentive, intimate confidante for multiple people as a professional companion, as well as being fully present for their own family, friends and colleagues. It's incredibly draining and can lead to burnout much quicker than with your average worker.
Tax and accounting - tracking income and expenses, paying an accountant or spending a lot of time figuring it out for yourself, registering your business, dealing with banks that are whorephobic and don't want your custom
Hazard pay - this exhaustive list doesn’t even take into account the obvious dangers for those not operating in the UK, where there is a higher legal risk to be factored in for providing paid-for sexual services. Even those in the UK have dealt with serious issues of abuse, whilst alone in a vulnerable position with an ill-intentioned client.
I hope this offers some perspective for those that might be tempted to negotiate rates, or to criticise what someone might deem themselves to be worth.
I remember thinking after my first full week and the handful of bookings I had, ‘wow, I just made x amount in a week’. But then I immediately caught myself, and realised that I had spent a great deal of time intensely researching the industry, then creating the persona, putting out ads, tweeting regularly and interacting with clients and providers (and time wasters), as well as the health/beauty/image expectations in how I was presenting myself, and it was certainly not a get rich quick pursuit. I did not make that money in one week - it took me months.
The hard work can eventually pay off, and this post demonstrates exactly why it should.